Beginners thinking too complicated

i need help to get in shap can u tell me wot the best way to wokoat with my dumbell

Yeah, shouldn't be too difficult to understand.   

I'm right here when you need me. 

Well i been working 8 months since now but with no good results, i saw some results since now but not much as someone could expect in 8 months, and i believe its because of experience, wrong training and nutrition and overtraining.
First the trainer at gym gave me a full body workout program the he gives to anyone there both genders and i didn't know much and i was doing it everyday for 6 days a week then he gave me another one more advanced and i did that for 6 weeks the one before for 8, so i was doing this everyday again.
Then he gave me another one that is basically 3 day split chest-triceps, back biceps and legs shoulders, and i was going everyday for 6 days a week again, now i know that i was overstraining.
But he didn't really cared so much as he only was giving me  a program every 6-8 weeks.
I know now that 8 months i wasn't doing well and it was waste of time. now i want to start over again from the beginning with a good full body workout i can do 30 pushups and with little difficulty 6 pull ups.
I already read wolfs guide on how to create a program i didn't succeed as i couldn't create one. Then i read dodo's post about full body workout plans but again i got confused. and i still am as i don't know which program to follow. someone suggested me also the stronglift 5x5 plan.
So what program should i follow?
I basically want to gain both strength and muscle not only to get stronger as stronglift program is for that reason i want both. so how i am gonna do this? if someone have the time to read this please give me some tips

What is wrong with giving out the same full body program to both genders? Men and women can train the same way - the only thing that will differ is how much muscle they develop.

I think your basic problem may be that you have unrealistic expectations. You can do 30 push-ups and 6 pull-ups, which is progress. What keeps you back is not sticking to a program suitable to your current fitness level. Either the teen beginner or regular teen workout or, if you train at a gym, Wolf's.

That trainer has been wasting your time for 8 months.  You should return the favour and bitch-slap him hard next time you see him.  Follow this, three times a week:

Squats (for two sessions a week) or Deadlifts (one session a week) - 3x5-8
BB bench press - 3x8-12
Rows - 3x8-12
Military press - 3x8-12
Chinups - 3x8-12
Dips - 3x8-12
Cable crunch - 3x12-15

It's certified by Wolf. 

Nope.  It is once you are beyond the stage you are at: at your stage, you don't need a full body workout like that.  The one I have outlined is best for where you are.

OK, one very important thing: you have been overtraining, so you need a week off (at least): no weight training.  Just relax, eat and sleep as you would normally, do a bit of research.

To be honest mate, I would just do that routine until you stop making gains.  That could be quite a while.  As long as you are continually adding weight to the bar and getting stronger, might as well just keep going.  If it works, keep doing it, don't worry about ''mixing it up''.

No, I don't want you to chop and change the routine when you do it, for the simple reason that it is balanced as it is, and if you throw in things like pushups and pullups, you will overtrain.  I mean, you can ask Wolf if you want, and he can say if you can put things in, but my view is, no, do it as it as set out.  It works the way it is now: enough said.