Help! I don't know what to do.

My Mom won't stop buying large amounts of crap foods. I tell her "Mom, I want to eat healthy." she knows this but still insists on buying chips, pretzels, cookies etc. She just lets it sit until I eat it and she doesn’t eat the cookies at all (sometimes she eats a few chips). I used to be a compulsive eater and one of the ways I found to combat it is to rid myself of temptation and only buy things that are good for me. Note: my parents are divorced and when I’m with my mom she does all the shopping and gives me no control. My dad lets me shop for the house. So now for the whole month of September I’m stuck till I go to my dad’s. I tell her “It’s like putting crack in front of a recovering addict.” She just disregards and buys more chips and frosted bleached and processed crap. I don’t know what to do.

In addition I used to weigh 285 now after 3 years of dedication I weigh 205. I’m trying to build more muscle mass. I do have whey protein that I mix into shakes daily. She buys eggs, peanuts (unsalted), and skim milk (by request). These are my main sources of protein other than the whey that I have. It’s really hard though because she buys all these bleached processed crap carbohydrates. I’m very proud of what I have accomplished over the last 3 years, but I’m worried.

Hey, if she buys it for you but she never really eats it, then throw it away. Show her that you really care about your health. No one should dictate on how you feed your body but you.

I used to have an issue somewhat similar to this. My problem wasnt controling myself from eating it because it was open, it was the idea of not wasting food by throwing it away. I felt bad that food would be thrown away because I was taught not to do it. Eventually I figured its not my concern to worry about it, if my parents eat it and do not finish it and decide to throw it away it is their money and their choice.

Best thing I can recommend is to control yourself to the best of your ability and not eat the junk she buys. If circumstances allow, ask your dad to talk to her about the stuff she buys, and if she doesnt give in to that, then ask (if circumstances allow) your dad for money so you can do some shopping for food while youre at your moms house.

80lbs is a big achievement, its a good thing that you did lose that weight because otherwise you most likely have ended up being another teen diabetic. I would like to congratulate you for that.

Remember; its all mind over matter.

Exactly, just prove your point - you want to change your eating manners so she shouldn't try to prevent that from happening.

Provocatively throw them unopened away.

-> She's gonna be upset and ask you why you did it
 -> You explain it to her again, she will actually listen
  -> Then you may do the shopping for her as well

Just to add to this...

What she is doing is passive aggressive behaviour.  I.e. not telling you that she doesn't want you to become fit/slim, but rather sabotaging you by putting things in your environment to cause you to fail.  You throwing them out is also passive aggressive, because it doesn't involve confronting her.

If she does finally confront you about the junk food in the trash, you should also discuss the passive agressive behaviour.  (And that you were essentially giving her a taste of her own medicine.)  It isn't healthy interpersonal interaction.

If she doesn't confront you, and you are absolutely certain she is aware you are throwing things away (for example she's seen you do it, said nothing, and continues to buy the junk), confront her again.  If that doesn't work, ask about getting family councilling.  There is something wrong, and this is just a symptom.

Eric